One of classic question being asked among believers regardless of their motives. We would like to touch this issue from different angle, which is Family.
When we ask any of believers, normally we will get the same answer “No”. In addition to that, they usually quote Matthew 19.
Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate
Matthew 19:6
In this post, we will not try to answer the question in the title above by simply black or white. But rather leave it to reader’s conscience to decide.
– What is our mindset
In modern society, human tends to create rules. Everything is divided by what you can or can not do, have or have not. Especially in organisation setting, everyone is governed by the set of standards. This environment is totally different from Grace and Family that God originally had in His mind.
As parents, we want our children to be happy in their lives. God, as parent Himself wants His children to be happy.
– A simple narrative
Let’s get straight to one example:
A man has a daughter. His daughter is marrying someone. Flash forward 3 years, everything that he and his daughter hoped for have completely changed. Her husband become abusive, to the extent that he beats her everyday. Day by day, she literally “lives in hell”. In the end, she decides to get a divorce.
Back to our question, can we divorce our spouses ?
– a different view
Depending on your mindset, the answers will be total opposite. If you have “organisation” mindset, then your answer will be a hard “yes” and “no”. Stigma and Judgement will follow in society. However, when you have “family” mindset, you can understand her decision to divorce.
A father does not want to see his daughter lives a miserable life. He wants to see her daughter live to the fullest. Fulfil her full potential.
– not a licence
Now, we are NOT suggesting that people can get divorce easily, whenever and whatever they like. In fact, we believe that everyone should do their utmost efforts to keep their marriages. Divorce should be out of equation, and only as a last resort.
But, in some extreme situation i.e. non stop physical abuse, we should understand their decision. Reserve our judgements. Whoever deemed failure by society, as a parent, God will accept us as His son and daughter.
we may come near, then, with freedom, to the throne of the grace, that we may receive kindness, and find grace
Hebrews 4:16 YLT
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